How to Stop Fighting Step #6 Deal Constructively with Irreconcilable Differences

Option B. Collect More Facts.

This sometimes works too, if the argument is facts-based.

"Facts-based" conflicts are ones that can be resolved if:

• The facts are determinable, AND
• The facts are determined.

But this is often not the case.

Sometimes the conflict is based on values (ideas about right and wrong, good or bad), and not facts.

Values tend to be very stable -- people don't change them very often.

To learn more, read an article on Dealing with Values-Based Conflicts.

Even when a conflict is based on facts, the facts may not be "knowable." For example,

So trying to collect more facts may not work.

• It may be impossible to figure out who did what a long time ago.
• There may be scientific facts that cannot be measured.