How to Stop Fighting Step #2  Overcoming the Hurt: Replacing Humiliation with Respect

Evelin Lindner, a leading psychological researcher, argues that "the power of humiliation to destroy everyone and everything in its path makes humiliation the 'nuclear bomb' of emotions."

In escalated conflicts people often get angry and say hurtful things that they don't entirely mean.

Also, the other party tends to interpret things in a worst-case fashion and then makes angry counter statements.

This drives the "escalation spiral," leading to distrust, disrespect, and humiliation.

Statements reflecting a lack of respect can be more hurtful than substantive disagreements.

To learn more, read an article on humiliation.

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