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Welcome to the New Beyond Intractability 
We have just completed a major reorganization and upgrade of the BI system — an upgrade that includes the addition of a new Constructive Conflict Guide which organizes BI resources around a comprehensive framework for thinking about conflict problems and identifying realistic things that can be done to limit or even solve those problems. The new system also continues to provide access to all prior BI content (at the original URLS) plus a version of our "classic" homepage.

Welcome to the New Beyond Intractability 
Find out about the recent upgrades to BI including our new Constructive Conflict Guide which organizes BI content around a framework for analyzing and then limiting or solving conflict problems.

How to Stop Fighting: Contents

How to Stop Fighting

Contents

How would you like to use the "Stop Fighting" tutorial? (Click on your choice.)

  • Follow the tutorial step-by-step

Jump to:

  • Step #1: Limit the Escalation Spiral (Quit digging the hole deeper.)
  • Step #2: Overcoming the Hurt: Replacing Humiliation with Respect
  • Step #3: Break Down Misunderstandings -- Communicate Well
  • Step #4: Fighting Fairly: Developing a System for Handling Disputes
  • Step #5: Effective Negotiation
  • Step #6: Deal Constructively with Irreconcilable Differences
  • Step #7: Keep Your Eye on the Ball: Remember What's Important
Stop Fighting: Home

 

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