A window into what we collectively know about more constructive ways of handling the intractable conflicts that threaten both our relationships and our societies.
A window into what we collectively know about more constructive ways of handling the intractable conflicts that threaten both our relationships and our societies.
Welcome to the New Beyond Intractability
We have just completed a major reorganization and upgrade of the BI system — an upgrade that includes the addition of a new Constructive Conflict Guide which organizes BI resources around a comprehensive framework for thinking about conflict problems and identifying realistic things that can be done to limit or even solve those problems. The new system also continues to provide access to all prior BI content (at the original URLS) plus a version of our "classic" homepage.
Welcome to the New Beyond Intractability
Find out about the recent upgrades to BI including our new Constructive Conflict Guide which organizes BI content around a framework for analyzing and then limiting or solving conflict problems.
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How to Stop FightingStep #3
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"I-messages" are less accusatory than "you-messages" and are therefore less likely to provoke a defensive response.
They focus on the speaker (I) instead of the listener (you).
They also tend to focus on the speaker's feelings:
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