Why Relationships Matter
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Social media is driving our conflicts--real HUMAN relationships can change that.
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"Selected" CC-MOOS Posts
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Limit "Us-vs-Them" Language, Thinking and Action
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If you collaborate with "your enemy" against escalation and "divide & conquerors"--you both can win!
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If you collaborate with "your enemy" against escalation and "divide & conquerors"--you both can win!
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Promoting De-Escalation – Part 1: Conciliatory Gestures
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Though risky, escalation is riskier! Conciliatory gestures can turn escalation around.
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Though risky, escalation is riskier! Conciliatory gestures can turn escalation around.
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Be Willing to Consider the Possibility That You May Be Wrong
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Most of us are so enmeshed in our own worldviews that we don't consider that we might be wrong. It helps to listen to outsiders and consider that possibility.
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Most of us are so enmeshed in our own worldviews that we don't consider that we might be wrong. It helps to listen to outsiders and consider that possibility.
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Siege Mentality
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North Korea's siege mentality is particularly dangerous as the US is exhibiting a siege mentality too!
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Counter Hate and Malevolence - Part 2
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Responding to hate with hate is like pouring gasoline on a fire...you are likely to get burned!
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Responding to hate with hate is like pouring gasoline on a fire...you are likely to get burned!
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Counter Hate and Malevolence - Part 1
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Hate, no matter how "justified" hurts us more than it helps us. Don't do it!
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Hate, no matter how "justified" hurts us more than it helps us. Don't do it!
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Listen Actively and Empathically
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Empathic listening is amazingly powerful--sometimes that is all that is needed to defuse destructive conflicts.
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Empathic listening is amazingly powerful--sometimes that is all that is needed to defuse destructive conflicts.
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Practice - and Preach - Civility in Public and Private Discourse
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Incivility begets more of the same, while civil discourse can help de-escalate conflict and improve relationships.
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Being overtly hostile to one's opponent feels good, but very rarely helps things. Civility goes a long wary towards constructive confrontation.
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Allow Your Opponents to "Save Face"
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No one likes to be humiliated--allowing your opponent to save face will help defuse a conflict.
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Closely related to respect, protecting one's own "face" and allowing others to do the same will make conflicts much easier to address successfully.
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