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Common Patterns of Destruction
Nancy Ferrell
Former CRS Mediator, Dallas Office; Private Mediator and Trainer

Interviewed by
Julian Portilla
2003

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People get on a track and they don't know how to get off of it. I have people in mediation that if I were a counselor I would be telling them you need to get back together, I mean, what are you doing here? But they've gotten themselves on a track and they don't know how to get off. They don't know how to stop the bus. And to save face, they keep going and neither one of them really wants that, but they don't know how to say to the other one, let's rethink this.

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