This blog contains posts highlighting things everyone--not just powerful people, not just important or rich people--but everyone of us --can do to help limit the dynamics that lead to destructive and intractable conflicts.
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A complete listing of all currently available "Things You Can Do To Help" posts.
A chronological listing of the most recent posts.
Play a "Third Side Role"
"Third siders" are disputants and outsiders - united in a desire to transform conflicts for the better.
Minimize the Use of Force
Exchange and respect are more powerful than force--they persuade without causing backlash.
Seek Co-existence, Not Total Victory
The demand for total victory is a recipe for continuing and deepening strife--co-existence is essential for peace.
Understand Your--and Others'--Fundamental Human Needs
Fundamental needs are common drivers of conflict. But they don't have to be.
Persuade People By Meeting Their Interests Too
If you can let the other side win something too, the chances of cooperation go way up.
Break Down Negative Stereotypes
Don’t assume a person you don’t know is just like you expect them to be. Give them a chance to surprise you!
Be Willing to Consider the Possibility That You May Be Wrong
Most of us are so enmeshed in our own worldviews that we don't consider that we might be wrong. It helps to listen to outsiders and consider that possibility.
Listen Actively and Empathically
Empathic listening is amazingly powerful--sometimes that is all that is needed to defuse destructive conflicts.