This blog contains posts highlighting things everyone--not just powerful people, not just important or rich people--but everyone of us --can do to help limit the dynamics that lead to destructive and intractable conflicts.
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A complete listing of all currently available "Things You Can Do To Help" posts.
A chronological listing of the most recent posts.
Understand Your--and Others'--Fundamental Human Needs
Fundamental needs are common drivers of conflict. But they don't have to be.
Persuade People By Meeting Their Interests Too
If you can let the other side win something too, the chances of cooperation go way up.
Break Down Negative Stereotypes
Don’t assume a person you don’t know is just like you expect them to be. Give them a chance to surprise you!
Be Willing to Consider the Possibility That You May Be Wrong
Most of us are so enmeshed in our own worldviews that we don't consider that we might be wrong. It helps to listen to outsiders and consider that possibility.
Listen Actively and Empathically
Empathic listening is amazingly powerful--sometimes that is all that is needed to defuse destructive conflicts.
Practice - and Preach - Civility in Public and Private Discourse
Incivility begets more of the same, while civil discourse can help de-escalate conflict and improve relationships.
Allow Your Opponents to "Save Face."
No one likes to be humiliated--allowing your opponent to save face will help defuse a conflict.
Focus on Fixing the Problem, Not Attacking People
Attacking people makes them angry. Enlisting their help to solve a mutual problem is more likely to work as hoped.