This blog contains posts highlighting things everyone--not just powerful people, not just important or rich people--but everyone of us --can do to help limit the dynamics that lead to destructive and intractable conflicts.
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Understand Your--and Others'--Fundamental Human Needs
Fundamental needs are common drivers of conflict. But they don't have to be.
Be Willing to Consider the Possibility That You May Be Wrong
Most of us are so enmeshed in our own worldviews that we don't consider that we might be wrong. It helps to listen to outsiders and consider that possibility.
Reflections on Las Vegas-- From an Intractable Conflict-based Perspective
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Lets not do that on guns!
Practice - and Preach - Civility in Public and Private Discourse
Incivility begets more of the same, while civil discourse can help de-escalate conflict and improve relationships.
Allow Your Opponents to "Save Face."
No one likes to be humiliated--allowing your opponent to save face will help defuse a conflict.
Listen Actively and Empathically
Empathic listening is amazingly powerful--sometimes that is all that is needed to defuse destructive conflicts.
If You're Not Part of the Solution, You're Part of the Problem
Conflict is created by everyone--it becomes better or worse depending on what all of us do.
Persuade People By Meeting Their Interests Too
If you can let the other side win something too, the chances of cooperation go way up.