- Thomas Merton
Additional Resources for Referees
- "The Non-Offensive Country" - A story of Switzerland, which depends solely on nonoffensive weapons and strategies for its defense.
- "Rules for Fair Fighting in Marriage" - A short story of using I-messages and de-escalatory language to deal with family conflict.
- CRInfo Resources on Disarmament - This page has several links to Web, print and organizational resources on disarmament.
- CRInfo Resources on Arms Control - This page has several links to Web, print and organizational resources on arms control.
- CRInfo Resources on Groundrules - This page has several links to Web, print and organizational resources on groundrules.
- Resolving Marital Conflict (Rules for Fair Fighting) - This is a portal for resolving conflict within a marriage. It provides a set of strategies that can be taken and also a set of groundrules that may be useful in resolving marital disputes.
- Albert Einstein Institution - The mission of the Albert Einstein Institution is to advance the worldwide study and strategic use of nonviolent action in conflict. The Institution is committed to defending democratic freedoms and institutions, opposing oppression, dictatorship, and genocide, and reducing reliance on violence as an instrument of policy.
- Conciliation Resources - The principal objective of this organization is to support sustained practical activities of those working at the community and national levels to prevent or transform violent conflict into opportunities for social, political and economic development based on more just relationships.
- Mennonite Central Committee - "MCC seeks to demonstrate God's love by working among people suffering from poverty, conflict, oppression and natural disaster. MCC serves as a channel for interchange by building relationships that are mutually transformative. MCC strives for peace, justice and dignity of all people by sharing our experiences, resources and faith in Jesus Christ." - From website
- Just War Principles from Mt. Holyoke and from Beyond Intractability - This is a brief list of some of the characteristics or qualifications of a just war.
- Draft Rules for Fair Fighting - This is a list of tips on how to "fight fairly" in a way that allows people to express themselves without having the other party feel threatened.
- Nuclear Non-Proliferation and Disarmament - This is an article about preventing nuclear proliferation and decreasing the number of nuclear weapons that states carry.
- Ground Rules — Who Needs Them? - This article discusses the importance of establishing groundrules in everyday interactions.
- Schmidt, F. and A. Friedman. (1989). Fighting Fair for Families. Peace Education Foundation. Offers tools to handle conflict like a 'pro' and create a more loving and caring environment for you and your family.
- Sharp, G. (1990). Civilian-Based Defense. Princeton: Princeton University Press. "Sharp discusses several prototypical cases of improvised nonviolent noncooperation and defiance against occupations and coups. He explores the strategies of prepared civilian-based defense and the ways "transarmament" -- or the changeover from military defense systems -- could be conducted." - From Amazon.com
- Ury, William (2000). The Third Side: Why We Fight and How We Can Stop. New York: Penguin. This book discusses the "Third Side" within situations of conflict: the human differences that lead to misunderstandings, disagreement, and conflict.
For More Information
Much of the material on this user guide is drawn from www.thirdside.org. Thanks to William Ury and Joshua Weiss for giving us permission to republish their material here.