Beyond Intractability: A Free Knowledge Base on More Constructive Approaches to Destructive Conflict

Introduction: Nancy Ferrell, private mediator and trainer, talks about how family members get caught up in destructive patterns of interaction in an effort to save face.

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Common Patterns of Destruction
Nancy Ferrell
Private mediator and trainer

Interviewed by
Julian Portilla
2003

People get on a track and they don't know how to get off of it. I have people in mediation that if I were a counselor I would be telling them you need to get back together, I mean, what are you doing here? But they've gotten themselves on a track and they don't know how to get off. They don't know how to stop the bus. And to save face, they keep going and neither one of them really wants that, but they don't know how to say to the other one, let's rethink this.

Legitimacy is like the air we breathe; we only notice it when it is not there. -- Kenneth Boulding

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